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Can you change your view?

Real estate is often said to be all about location, location, location. I was reading something this morning which was talking about perspective and seeing things from a different perspective or view. It got me to thinking about changing your view or your location. 

I realize also how we talk about things can change how people view things. I remember when I was at the doctor and discussing some test results a few years ago he presented them as "there is 30% or greater chance this is aggressive". That did not sound good. But later, when I thought about it, I thought so there was a 70% or less chance it was not aggressive. How it is presented will affect us.

The same goes for news, politics, opinions etc. If we are able to change our perspective and see things from a different angle of from a different viewpoint we may be able to hear what others are saying. Ron and Alexandra Seigel wrote a couple of days ago about listening from the heart or from the mind.

For many years I listened from the mind. Always waiting to jump in with my wonderful opinion, and wanting to "WIN" the discussion or conversation. It took a while for me to learn to listen fully, to actually try and hear what the other person was saying. To listen from my heart rather than my mind. A change of perspective.

What could you do differently if you changed perspective, looked at a situation differently. 

I always say to people who tell me that something is impossible, if you break that down it becomes I'm possible! a different perspective. The 4 minute mile was always thought impossible, till it was run, then others began breaking the 4  minute mark as well.

Are you limiting yourself because you are seeing something from the same old vantage point. Can you shift and see it from a different perspective? 

Many coaches encourage you to look back from a position of having succeeded and think about how you got there, then set up a plan to complete those stages. A different perspective than looking ahead and thinking how do I get there.

I am writing this for myself as much as for anyone. What do I need to see differently? How can I change my perspective? What would I do differently if I looked at it from a different perspective.

Just some random thoughts and musings for a Tuesday morning. What will you look at differently?

Do you believe you cannot buy a Main Line or Tredyffrin Easttown home? Maybe you need a different perspective or to just know the options. Contact Nick Vandekar, Selling the Main Line at Long & Foster Real Estate Inc., office 610-225-7400, cell or text 610-203-4543, email Nick@VandekarTeam.com, www.SellingTheMainLine.com.

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Comment balloon 40 commentsNick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 • January 22 2019 02:34PM

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Good morning,  Nick - perspective provides with so many opportunities to discover and to enjoy an entirely different view.  Many times the cost is merely opening our minds to the possibilities. 

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 5 months ago

Good morning Nick. You are thoughtful and right about this I think. it isn't easy but it is possible.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) 5 months ago

Nick,

First, let me begin with suggesting that Carol Williams feature your post in Second Chance Saturday, if this does not get featured.

Second, thank you for the mention.

Third, Changing perspectives is what our work is about.  I credit my father for always insisting that I look at whatever point of view I touted at the moment from another perspective.  He would deliberately take the opposing view and argue  it.  The whole exercise was about the validity of each point of view, and how in order to be smart you had to understant that someone else's perspective had validity...and maybe a blend would create the solution...And failures were really a steppingstone to success  A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) 5 months ago

Hello Nick, I agree with a that this should make Carol Williams second time around post and ever Kathy Strieb.

 

Posted by Will Hamm, "Where There's a Will, There's a Way!" (Hamm Homes) 5 months ago

Hi Nick,
Perspective is one of my absolute favorite words! 

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) 5 months ago

By-the-way, I would love to see your posts in the BananaTude Group!

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) 5 months ago

Nick, wonderful post with lots of points to ponder.    I always try to listen with my heart, and fully listen too.

Posted by Joan Cox, Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time (House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373) 5 months ago

Michael Jacobs often we need to find somewhere quiet to consider a different viewpoint and let it settle in. 

Sheila Anderson nothing worthwhile I have found is ever easy. Easy is what most people do, hard is what achievers challenge themselves to tackle on a daily basis.

Ron and Alexandra Seigel I learnt a lot on my Camino, one of the biggest things as I said was to be open minded, and open hearted. If we do that, we can mot only hear, but see from a different perspective and maybe understand where someone else is coming from as well.

Will Hamm thank you, I appreciate the approval.

Carol Williams thank you, never quite sure what qualifies for BananaTude. I am coming to love perspectives, sometimes grudgingly but getting there.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

Joan Cox you are very wise, but I knew that. It is not easy, but so enjoyable when we do listen from our hearts.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

Hi again Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ,
We only ask there be no: Politics, listings, open houses, shameless self-promotion or whining. 

Posted by Carol Williams, Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager (Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals.) 5 months ago

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - Breaking habits can feel awkward but can be so freeing and rewarding when we shake ourselves loose from ordinary ways of thinking or doing. That was a good analogy you gave about the doctor's advice. When looking for new opportunities, always think of possibilities by looking at things from a different perspective then use your head and your heart to make decisions. It works for me. I hope you consider it too. 

Personally, I think you're great! 

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) 5 months ago

Nick, your post really makes me think, I read it twice. Perspective can be hard to have yet, necessary and I'd say even good to have it when we least want too. As I read you made me think of one of my favorite quotes "if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. ~Wayne Dyer" 

Posted by Amanda S. Davidson, Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale (Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty) 5 months ago

Good evening Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ,

OMG..I agree with Ron and Alexandra Seigel if this post doesn't get featured please Carol Williams feature it in your Second Chance Saturday post! Love the pondering this post has instilled. So many possibilities..we need to take time to ponder...right Michael Jacobs?

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) 5 months ago

This blog reminds me of many other articles I've read about how your attitude can affect outcome...stay positive!  Choose your outlook, your mood, and yes, the way you present to customers.

Posted by Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR, Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area (Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes) 5 months ago

Good morning Nick.  It all starts with an open mind.  Something that is severely lacking in today's society.

Posted by Gabe Sanders, Stuart Florida Real Estate (Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales) 5 months ago

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP thank you, you are always so encouraging. Taking that step outside our comfort zone to lok at something differently can be scary,but i found on my Camino it was easy to do.

Amanda S. Davidson I love that Wayne Dyer quote.

Thank you Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR I appreciate your comments.

Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR thank you, it seems to have strucka chord with many.

Gabe Sanders we all hear what we want to hear, listening to hear what is actually being said is so difficult. It takes a lot of effort and willingness to do.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

So many great points you've brought up, that I decided to bookmark this to come back to later.    I especially enjoyed the concept of listening with the heart, and "I'm Possible."

Posted by M.C. Dwyer, Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist (Century 21 Showcase REALTORs) 5 months ago

 

And some great random thoughts Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543  Seeing things from a different angle or perspective...we may be able to listen with our heart.

Posted by Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland, Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome ( HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400) 5 months ago

M.C. Dwyer listening with the heart came from Ron and Alexandra Seigel if you don't follow them, you really should. The I'm possible was my own spark of inspiration, I believe, I cannot remember hearing it anywhere.

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland my mind was spinning around when I wrote this that is true. Somehow, my brain considered them all related.

 

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

In order to succeed in our business you have to be able to adapt to change. Thanks for sharing, have a great afternoon.

Posted by Pat Champion, Call the "CHAMPION" for all your real estate needs (Coldwell Banker Camelot Realty) 5 months ago

Pat Champion I agree totally with you. 

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

Nick- how we see and react or respond to things or people depends upon our view. And as you said that 70% chance that it wasn't aggressive sounds a lot better than 30% that is was. The same thing but from a different view. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 5 months ago

                                     

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 5 months ago

It can be somewhat difficult to stop, step back, and try to look at something from a different perspective. But if that different viewpoint is found, the result can be so helpful and satisfying!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com) 5 months ago

A different viewpoint on matters is always good.  You might find an easier solution, a better approach to the problem, an understanding from the other players that illuminates motivations, etc.  Thank you.

Posted by John Henry, Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design (John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc.) 5 months ago

A different perspective is always nice and thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Peter Mohylsky, SoWal Is HOME., Let me help you find your path to the beach. (PrimeSouth Properties) 5 months ago

Good morning,  Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 it's usually very difficult to change a perspective on an important situation.... but it's possible if the individual has an open mind.....

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) 5 months ago

Great way to learn from analysis...and grow from the experience !

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 5 months ago

Some wise person, long ago, told me this: What if,  instead of people always arguing their opinion?, they took the time to really  listen to another person's perspective and find out why he, or she, thinks that way? My father and I were always on opposite sides in politics - what a different it made in our ability to communicate, when I just sat and listened with an open-mind, and an open-heart. I learned  so much more about him and it strengthened our relationship. 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) 5 months ago

Hi Nick

Thanks for your thoughtful post. It's important to realize we should try to look at, consider, and listen to different perspectives. That can sometimes be a challenge if we let it be or are so committed to our own viewpoint we cannot consider others.

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) 5 months ago

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, sometimes, we're just stuck in the past that we can not see how it would look if we approached things in a different way. I've learned to listen with my heart as Ron and Alexandra Seigel suggest many years ago and that has served me well. There may be more than one way to get to the finish line if we take a pause and explore. Thank you for this great post.

Posted by Beth Atalay, Cam Realty of Clermont FL (Cam Realty and Property Management) 5 months ago

Kathy Streib thank you, and yes a different viewpoint or statistic can change your opinion.

Kat Palmiotti yes, it is hard to do, we are so programmed in our thinking that we react rather than respond. Worth working on to change in my opinion.

Very true, John Henry hearing others opinions can helpyou find a different path. We don't all travel the same path to the destination.

Peter Mohylsky, Bucket List always good to get a reminder now and then.

Barbara Todaro that is very true, one of the things I was most impressed by on my Camino walk was how open minded every one was. 

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

Sally K. & David L. Hanson we should always be open to learning.

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD several years ago I realized, or learnt I did not have to "win" every conversation. That allowed me to listen more and really hear what was being said, often different from what I initially thought. I like your thought very much.

Jeff Dowler, CRS we need to come with an open mind and an open heart, then we can truly listen and understand the person on the other side.

Beth Atalay I totally agree with you. There are many paths, and if we are open we may find a better way and learn what we thought was hard can be easy.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

I really like the idea of looking back from a position of success and setting up a plan to complete the stages to get there... Very wise thinking.

 

Posted by Joyce Marsh, Regional Manager Regal Christie's Int'l Realty (Regal | Christie's International Real Estate) 5 months ago

I have gotten the best results when I said, "STOP! Let's start over - let's take a look at this from another vantage point." It works - delightfully sometimes, Nick!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 5 months ago

Great post and a reminder that patience is a virtue when listening to someone whose opinion may differ from our own. Listen fully - great thoughts here!

Posted by Jan Green, HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN (Value Added Service, 602-620-2699) 5 months ago

Change is usually good for us, and we often need to take a good look or change of perspective to see we may need a little change.

Posted by Michael Eisenberg, Bellingham Real Estate Guy (eXp Realty) 5 months ago

Joyce Marsh, Daytona Ormond Beach Florida thank you, have to admit, something I have learned, not always the best at applying it though.

Debe Maxwell, CRS stopping is always a good idea and thinking it through. 

Jan Green thank you, appreciate the compliment.

I think unless pushed Michael Eisenberg not many of us change willingly. Usually it is pain or fear rather than anything else which causes us to change.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 5 months ago

Your perspective could always change with new information. So, it's always about your ideology as to whether you'll be open to apply new information on issues because some beliefs are so difficult if not unacceptable to change. 

Posted by Kimo Jarrett, Pro Lifestyle Solutions (WikiWiki Realty) 4 months ago

Kimo Jarrett Iagree, being open is important, we can learn something every day or reject what we read, hear or talk about.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) 4 months ago

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