I am reading Gary Zukav's book Soul to Soul. In there he tells a story about his wife, running a race. It began with a long uphill section, which then became a second stage also uphill. As they reached the end of this stage looking forward to the downhill part of the course they were greeted by another uphill section. Starting to get angry, she thought well everything that goes up, comes down she waited for the downhill section of the course, but no it continued to climb. Struggling with her anger it then dawned on her that the whole course was uphill. She readjusted her thoughts and put her energy into running rather than anger and completed the race.
It got me thinking. When I walked my Camino last year, I walked part of the way from Lisbon to Porto with a Frenchman, Andre. The night before and the morning of our day walking into Porto, which was a long walk almost 28 miles much of it on cobble stones. Andre who was pushed for time and only going as far as Porto had said maybe we will catch a bus. Walking into and out of these large cities you pass through pretty boring industrial areas, so this seemed like a great way around that. And, yes, they were not attractive. It was hot, cobblestones, like those on the right in the photo, were my least favourite thing to walk upon. Some of them dated from Roman times amazingly, but I was still not liking them however long they had been there. So as I am walking I am thinking over and over, when will we take the bus. As the afternoon went on I was getting more and more disgruntled and angry. I was starting to get very annoyed with Andre when he turns and says "I know you really want to walk the whole Camino, so no bus today." Honestly, I almost cried, this was the furthest I had walked any day. I was tired, hot and my feet and knees were really hurting. Now some people may take that and channel it into the walk.
But like the example above, I had an expectation that I was going to take a bus at sometime. By the time I realized we were not, I was fuming and pretty unhappy. It is only as I read the story above today, I realize I could have enjoyed that day so much more if I had not had the expectation of taking a bus. I did somewhat realize this at the time and let it go and enjoyed what I was doing.
It was pretty amazing to walk that distance, and to cross the bridge into Porto. Even though we then needed to find a room or a bed in a hostel, which is another story for another day. But I realize now, my expectation stole the day from me. How often do we let our expectations steal a moment, a day, a week, a month or even a year or worse a house or an offer from us because we fume and stew over them. When we really need to let our expectations go and just deal with what is and enjoy where we are and what we are doing.
That is where a Realtor helps when you are looking for or selling a home. We all have expectations and they can cloud our judgment when something good comes along and we miss it if we let our expectations guide us. It can be an offer with terms that are a little different to what we were expecting. It might be a different style of home to what we thought we would like. If you want help selling or buying a Main Line or Tredyffrin Easttown home, call Nick Vandekar, Selling the Main Line with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc. today, office 610-225-7400, cell or text 610-203-4543, email Nick@VandekarTeam.com, website www.SellingTheMainLine.com.
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