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I cut the strings!

About 10 days ago I was listening to a podcast about digital minimalism. It got me thinking and asking questions about my use of social media and my "smart phone".

Does social media make me more social? Does it help me in business? Am I present when I have my phone with me?

I did not find the answers easy and pondered them and thought about them. I am a people person, so I dived into social media. I post everywhere, I enjoy it, I like reading about others and what they do. I caught up with some old friends through Facebook.

But, did I really have a relationship, or was I just looking in from the outside?

Were they really friends?

The last few days I made a decision, to delete Twitter from my phone and delete my account.

Yesterday, I did the same with Facebook, deleting my business pages and my personal account. 

For now I am keeping Instagram, LinkedIn and Pinterest. Why these? I am still assessing them for now. Will I ever return to Facebook or Twitter - maybe, maybe not, just deactivating my accounts I saw how hard they make it and encourage you that you are free to return in 14 days and resume. Made me think about addicition, if they believe you will want to return within 14 days.

When I am honest with myself I have not seen any business come directly from either Twitter or Facebook. Sure people can find me, and see what my life is like but is that what I really want?

The answer was no, with a capital N. So I cut myself off. I am sure I will reach for my phone and wonder what people are up to, but I can call them and talk with them. Those who live close, I can meet for coffee or a meal. And I know when I am there I WILL BE THERE.

One of ther important things said in the podcast was that just having a smart phone on the table leads to less understanding and much more distraction. We have forgotten how to focus and reach for our phones for distraction all the time.

Since my return from my camino last year, I have been shedding things. I realized I need much less than "the world and the advertisers" have been telling me. Likewise, I don't need social media. I can live without it. 

I am free to choose what I listen to or not. I can sit in the quiet, listening to nature and just think and ponder. I can call friends any time I wish.

I am free, I have cut the strings!

So if you want a Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor who is focused and pays attention to your needs whether you are buying or selling a home call me, Nick Vandekar, Selling the Main Line with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc., office 610-225-7400, cell or text 610-203-4543, email, website



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Comment balloon 38 commentsNick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 • March 27 2019 05:42PM


Hi Nick -- shedding "things" definitely has its advantages and the subject is ponder-worthy indeed.   As for social media, the concept and the execution is a case of "careful of what you ask for".   Just my thought as Barbara Todaro night say.  

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 5 months ago

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 I use what I enjoy.... Personal & Business Facebook pages, ActiveRain and the team website.... that's it....nothing more.... 

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) 5 months ago

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - I have learned that I use all of social media in moderation. I am not addicted to any platform. 

I do answer my phone during business hours and will excuse myself from a dining situation if there is an important phone call to take. 

Posted by Sheri Sperry - MCNE®, (928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR® (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) 5 months ago


Ah the joy of being there, face to face gazing at the eyes of a friend...I  cannot get enough of that.  Good for you!  A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) 5 months ago

Good for you.. Social media has taken the "social" out of life! I haven't used my Twitter account in years and don't even remember how to sign into it. 

Posted by Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES, Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living (Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch!) 5 months ago

Nick,  all I can say is no reason to delete, you can be dormant as in not being active on those platforms. So with that said, my take is every time I meet a client I ask how did they find me and the answer is on the Web without going into specifics. Often I find when I do connect with a client they generally Google me after it because they mention that oh boy you are everywhere.... so you might want to reconsider of just chopping everything out... Endre

Posted by Endre Barath, Jr., Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002 (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices) 5 months ago

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543  Good luck I hope you made the right decision - We live in a world where generation knows of nothing else - Happy Tuesday 

Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) 5 months ago

It is about...picking and can't be everywhere or do everything well at the same time.

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 5 months ago

If you don't make money from social media it is wasting your time. Many do generate business on Facebook with paid ads.

Posted by Edward Gilmartin (CRE) 5 months ago

I find Facebook is valuable for those interested in the preservation of our built environment. We can let others know when a building is in danger of demolition or we can heap praises on a fine example of an architectural wonder that has been preserved. Delaware Preservation Celebration is a favorite of mine!

Posted by Carolyn Roland-Historic Homes For Sale In Delaware and S. Chester County PA, Carolyn Roland, GRI, CRS (Patterson-Schwartz Real Estate) 5 months ago

Aww - awesome!     I lie dormant most of the time..  Occasionally something will grab my attention and I will wander around for an hour or so, then gone for a month.     I get the comment- You are everywhere!     and that's good....

Posted by Dagny Eason, Fairfield County CT, CDPE Homes For Sale and Condo (Dagny's Real Estate) 5 months ago

Aside fdrom Active Rain, I just can't get interested in the social sites. I feel like I "should" post to the business page on Facebook regularly, but I don't enjoy it.

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 5 months ago

Good Luck to you! We all need to be happy with out choices!

Twitter is not about business it is soooooo political 

But Facebook does work for my business. We are a small town with a weekly newspaper and when the sirens go off we find out what happened on Facebook. It works for Real Estate too!! 


Posted by Debra Leisek ( Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska) 5 months ago

How you allocate your time and what is your routine to find more time by being more efficient.... everyone of us has that same clock ticking to handle whatever comes down the real estate conveyor belt for chores. I find it is not all or nothing to keep or deep six a platform that works. Just moderation and KISS to programming the social media. Google plus is shuttering its doors and talk around the AR water cooler is buzzing about what to do with the time put into that platform effort. It may be spread that time around on the other social media seeds in your marketing garden. Not thinking Reddit is the answer if looking for a replacement.

Posted by Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) 5 months ago

This is a great read Nick.  I have considered getting rid of Facebook myself, the personal side but not the business.  I have made friends on Facebook with several clients and it does keep me in front of them.  I don't think I will be giving this up for now, but do believe Linkedin is a great source for business.  Have a great day!  Good for you!!

Posted by Brenda J. Andrew, Professional Realtor in Corpus Christi, TX (ULTIMA REAL ESTATE) 5 months ago

I have a personal page and a business page.  I like seeing what my kids and grandkids are doing but the millennials are pouring too many photos and minute by minute updates that drive me crazy.  Then the political stuff is easy to get sucked into and then a potential client looks you up and gets to your personal page somehow.  I am SO close to cutting off the personal FB account!!  My business account acts like another web which allows easier updates and posts.  ANY other inbound link to your main web is good.   LinkedIn has the potential for reciprocal benefits in order to reach mutual goals...

Posted by John Henry, Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design (John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc.) 5 months ago

This is a basic decision about what you perceive works best for you and what level of social media is or is not helpful personally and professionally. I use several types, but in moderation. The jury is still out in regard to which is most beneficial. 

Posted by Dave Rosenmarkle, 32 years of providing fully satisfying service! (Highland Realty) 5 months ago

Dear Nick,

But now you will not be benefitting from all those people who want to manage your Facebook activity for you for a mere $500 a month to start. Whatever will you do with all that extra money? Invite real people for coffee??

Posted by Dörte Engel, ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland (RE/MAX Leading Edge) 5 months ago

What people don't realize is that all these outside sources/applications require a piece of the person to make them work. My energy/focus is reserved by me to hit target, maintain commitment and ensure results. The rest is on stand-by...

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) 5 months ago

To answer your first 3 questions Nick, No, No and No!

So I guess now I'm no longer the only one here without a Facebook page!  


Posted by Marie Story, Broker Associate, Pinecrest (Miami) Specialist (Coldwell Banker - Pinecrest (Miami)) 5 months ago

My husband closed his Facebook account after the first disaster of lies and failure to protect personal information. It was a hard procedure, too, like you say.

I don't really do social media. If people want to tell me something, they know my phone number and email. However, I do maintain business pages (because it is expected). But social media I pretty much ignore -- too much white noise.

And don't get me started about the racists on Next Door. TMI about my neighbors.

Posted by Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%, Put 40 years of experience to work for you (RE/MAX Gold) 5 months ago

We each have to do what we feel for ourselves. I have found Facebook valuable in keeping in touch with friends from childhood. In fact, this week I just reconnected with 2 childhood friends this week that mean the world to me but I had lost touch with. Ones health is fragile so I'm glad to have reconnected so we can share what we have meant to each other before it's too late. (Being 2 years older than me, she taught me to walk.)

I have also found that through social media my associates have been able to see me and my life outside of business. I also get to see them and get to know more about them and their families and life.

I respect you, and others, who choose to decide if, and when, to cut their ties with the various social media platforms.

Posted by Beth Paterson, CRMP, NMLS #342859 (Reverse Mortgages SIDAC, LLC, NMLS #1790592) 5 months ago

I'm doing the opposite, Getting back on Facebook and posting what we do all the time. I do have "newsfeed eradicator" that keeps me from getting lost on my feed while at work. 

Posted by Ben DeHaven, Proudly serving Winter Haven & Lakeland, Florida (Haven Realty & Investments) 5 months ago

I cut mine a few years back but came across a big time hitch. It severed my ties with family overseas and as we dont do the phone thing much I rejoined. I would love to kill it all, but I have to be careful, it has it's uses especially when you have an aging parent 4000 miles away and my family can hit me in seconds if need be.

Posted by Corinne Guest, Barrington Lifestyles (Corinne Guest, REALTOR® | Barrington Realty Company) 5 months ago

Endre Barath, Jr. 

I agree with Endre.

One never knows.

Always good to keep.......and let go dormant if you wish.......but it's your choice.

Best of luck.

Posted by Wayne L. Brown (Franklin Advantage Inc.) 5 months ago

My twitter feed doesn't make me any money but my facebook account does.

Posted by Mike Frazier, Northwest Tennessee Realtor (Carousel Realty of Dyer County) 5 months ago

Good for you to make the commitment with what works for you. The best to you Nick!

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) 5 months ago

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, if it works for you, then, you must do it. Access of anything can be harmful. Many of my clients found me through social media so I will continue to use the sites that are effective and one of them is Facebook.

Posted by Beth Atalay, Cam Realty of Clermont FL (Cam Realty and Property Management) 5 months ago

Congratulations! It makes sense to do what works best for you and your business.  FB and Twitter are such time-wasters!  There's a whole world out there to enjoy in person ....  

Posted by Maureen Bray Portland OR Home Stager ~ Room Solutions Staging, "Staging that Sells Portland Homes" (Room Solutions Staging, Portland OR) 5 months ago

Nick, I've gotten a lot of business from Facebook but, Twitter isn't one that has been a winner for me. I think we all have to do what works for us and admire your ability to cut the strings. It had to feel really freeing!

Posted by Amanda S. Davidson, Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale (Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty) 5 months ago

Good evening Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ,

Good for you! I say everyone needs to ponder some on what is working for them and what they enjoy and spend the time accordingly! Congrats on the featured post...well deserved!

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) 5 months ago

In the beginning, I dove right into the social sites but after a while, I found I was losing interest also. I wonder at times where ActiveRain will take us.

Posted by Jill Sackler, LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate (Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500) 5 months ago

Good for you.  All that stuff is so overhyped.  I think that the younger generations would be wise to step back and look at the big picture too.  I still don't get LinkedIn even though I have thousands of connections. 

Posted by Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089, Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info (Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers) 5 months ago

Good for you for making a decision to change something that isn't working for you. I also love that the camino gave you insight about ways to improve your life. So cool.

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, 5 months ago

Hi Nick:

Well I am not ready to do what you did, but good for you for making a decision that is right for you, your philosophy, and your personal and business life.

Have a great weekend!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) 5 months ago

Good luck with that, you'll probably end up with better real friends.


Posted by Michael Eisenberg, Bellingham Real Estate Guy (eXp Realty) 5 months ago

You must feel refreshed not having to spend time on social media  in that way.  I agree it takes a lot of time and attention to be proactive, responsive and to what end?  Unless you spend an inordinate amount of time on it, it doesn't offer many benefits for business.  I do, however, love seeing all of my out of state friends, family and many others so I'm keeping it for the time being.  

Posted by Jan Green, HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN (Value Added Service, 602-620-2699) 5 months ago

Hi Nick- I bet it's opened up a whole new world for you!!! I spend about 5-10 minutes a day on Facebook primarily checking in on family and friends and those cute animal videos but that's about it. I do agree that we're missing the art of the phone conversation or meeting for a cup of coffee or lunch to keep in touch with our friends. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 5 months ago

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